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Mental Health/self-care

9 New Year’s Resolutions For Better Mental Health in 2021

December 23, 2020December 23, 2020 Sam Dylan Finch 10 Comments

If 2020 taught us anything, it’s that the entire world can change overnight.

Mental Health

The Unofficial-But-Awesome ADHD Holiday Gift Guide For 2020

December 1, 2020December 2, 2020 Sam Dylan Finch 2 Comments

Rest assured, these are all tried and true.

Mental Health

I Didn’t ‘Overidentify’ With My Mental Illness. I Was Grieving.

July 3, 2020July 3, 2020 Sam Dylan Finch 9 Comments

So much of grief is learning how to integrate our shadow selves into the rest of us.

Body Positive/Mental Health

Fatphobia in eating disorder recovery exists. And now my friend might die because of it.

June 3, 2019June 3, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch 22 Comments

"‘You three get two scoops of ice cream.’ She then looked at me and said, ‘You’ll get a kiddie scoop.’”

Mental Health

People-pleasing can be a result of trauma. It’s called ‘fawning’ — here’s how to recognize it.

June 1, 2019June 1, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch 100 Comments

"I avoided those relationships where love was free and easy. Because it didn't feel 'earned,' so I didn't feel worthy."

Body Positive/Mental Health

I preached body positivity — and sunk deeper into my eating disorder at the same time.

January 5, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch 16 Comments

I used my proximity to body positive spaces to disregard the very idea that I needed help — and I'm paying the price physically, mentally, and emotionally now.

LGBTQ/LGBTQIA/Mental Health/transgender

When they misgendered you at your memorial.

October 15, 2018October 16, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch 98 Comments

"You never lived to see the day when your life didn’t require a disclaimer — instead, your death now required one, too."

Mental Health

If your ‘suicide prevention’ isn’t talking about the mental health system, you’re missing the point.

September 12, 2018September 12, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch 9 Comments

As both a suicide attempt and loss survivor, I need to climb up onto my soapbox for a minute. Suicide…

Read More If your ‘suicide prevention’ isn’t talking about the mental health system, you’re missing the point.

Mental Health/self-care

If your goal in therapy is to ‘be happy,’ you might want to rethink that. Here’s why.

August 12, 2018August 12, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch 11 Comments

If your goal for therapy is impossible? You might give up before you ever get to the good stuff.

LGBTQ/Mental Health/transgender

Yes, I have a ‘mental disorder.’ But it’s not being transgender.

July 20, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch 7 Comments

Many of the people who still insist that being transgender is a 'disorder' don’t actually care about our mental health.

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Sam Dylan Finch. I’m a writer and positive psychology practitioner that’s passionate about queer joy — with none of the self-helpy bullsh*t. I wrote that thing about people-pleasing that you showed your therapist. I’m much weirder in real life.  ✨ He/they. More?

 

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The ways in which many trauma survivors try to rationalize what happened to us is by blaming ourselves. It’s the best way we know how to take back our agency and control after something so devastating: “At least if it’s my fault, I could do something to prevent it next time.”
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  • People-pleasing can be a result of trauma. It’s called 'fawning’ — here’s how to recognize it.
  • 7 Subtle Signs Your Trauma Response is to 'Fawn'
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