Love Me Now: New Moon Tarotscopes for December 2025
This Sagittarius New Moon, right as the year closes, is bringing with it the medicine we need most: hope.
Your voice is your power. Use it. 🔥
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LQTU is a (deeply) personal blog exploring neurodivergence, mental health, identity, culture, and social change from an unapologetically queer perspective. Launched in 2014, created by writer and advocate Sam Dylan Finch.
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I Think My Friend is a Transtrender. What Do I Do?
Everyone has the right to explore who they are and let their journey unfold, even if it’s messy.
3 Key Questions to Ask a New Therapist or Coach
“I experienced a harmful therapy relationship a few years back… I can’t help but wonder if I asked the right questions.”
Verbal Processing: Why You ‘Think Out Loud’ And 5 Tips to Support You
“When I’m trying to untangle a problem, I have to talk it out.”
How to Heal Your Inner Child When All You Remember is Trauma
“I’m not even sure I have any happy memories. Does that mean this inner child stuff isn’t for me?”
3 Questions to Meet and Release Your Fawn Trauma Response
Grief helps retrieve us from the past, where our younger selves are still living.
Why I’m No Longer Striving For My Best, Highest, or ‘Healed’ Self
We don’t have to compensate anymore for who we became to survive.
A Neurodivergent’s Guide to Burnout Recovery
Frustration is a sign that you want more for your life. That means you’re closer to moving out of burnout than you think you are.
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A blog built on hope.
I first launched LQTU back in 2014, at a time when conversations about mental health — especially the wellbeing of queer community — were still largely had behind closed doors.
This blog was my response to a culture of suppression, silence, and shame. It’s also a map of my journey, a collection of my lived experience and insight, and a love letter to my community.
In 2025, against all odds, I am a relentless optimist… because the future I am committed to building demands it.
Each time I thought my story was over, I found my fight again. That is, at the heart of it all, what queerness means to me: We dance, we pick up a brick, we make art, we stay defiant, we carry the torch, we hold our heads high, we keep love alive.
It ain’t over ’til it’s over, my friends. And I’m so glad you’re (still) here with me. ☀️
Popular This Month
A Neurodivergent’s Guide to Burnout Recovery
Frustration is a sign that you want more for your life. That means you’re closer to moving out of burnout than you think you are.
What You’re Actually Saying When You Ignore Someone’s Gender Pronouns
“The truth of our experience will not change no matter how adamant your refusal to see it may be.”
Why Do I Keep Making Myself Sad On Purpose?
Maybe you’re not just making yourself sad — maybe you’re trying to make yourself feel, which is always the first step in healing.
Trauma Made Me Afraid of Being Alone. Here Are 7 Ways I Learned to Cope
Being alone started out as a trigger, but each time I confronted it, I was able to ease into it a little bit more.
10 Ways to ‘Reach Out’ When You’re Struggling With Your Mental Health
After my friend’s suicide, I realized something: We ask people to reach out. But we never explain how.
People-Pleasing Can Be a Trauma Response, ‘Fawning’ — Here’s How to Recognize It
“I avoided those relationships where love was free and easy. Because it didn’t feel earned, so I didn’t feel worthy.”
Featured Essays
When they misgendered you at your memorial
“You never lived to see the day when your life didn’t require a disclaimer — instead, your death now required one, too.”
I’m Giving My Eating Disorder Away
“I approached connection the same way I did food: Trying to get by with as little as possible.”
When Your Violin is Supposed to Be a Cello
“I can tell you the exact moment I realized, without a doubt, that I was not a woman.”
Dear Body: A peace treaty with my queer, trans, and recovering body.
I’m breathless now, looking back at all the ways you would not back down from survival.