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People-pleasing can be a result of trauma. It’s called ‘fawning’ — here’s how to recognize it.

June 1, 2019June 1, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch100 Comments

"I avoided those relationships where love was free and easy. Because it didn't feel 'earned,' so I didn't feel worthy."

Body Positive/Mental Health

Dear Body: A peace treaty with my queer, trans, and recovering body.

May 2, 2019May 2, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch10 Comments

I’m breathless now, looking back at all the ways you would not back down from survival.

Body Positive/Mental Health/self-care

7 (Totally Wrong) Reasons I Didn’t Think I Had An Eating Disorder

January 19, 2019January 20, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch11 Comments

Eating disorders are built on a house of lies, but if it's the only house you've ever lived in, you just won't see it that way.

Body Positive/Mental Health

I preached body positivity — and sunk deeper into my eating disorder at the same time.

January 5, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch16 Comments

I used my proximity to body positive spaces to disregard the very idea that I needed help — and I'm paying the price physically, mentally, and emotionally now.

LGBTQ/LGBTQIA/transgender

Denying the existence of transgender and nonbinary people is not ‘scientific.’

December 24, 2018December 24, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch8 Comments

"Human beings are not just the sum of their biology."

LGBTQ/LGBTQIA/Mental Health/transgender

When they misgendered you at your memorial.

October 15, 2018October 16, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch98 Comments

"You never lived to see the day when your life didn’t require a disclaimer — instead, your death now required one, too."

LGBTQ

5 important mistakes I made as a partner to someone with chronic illness.

October 6, 2018October 6, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch13 Comments

As much as I hate admitting this, these were lessons that I often learned the hard way.

LGBTQ/LGBTQIA/Mental Health/transgender

My parents and I survived my ‘Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria.’ This is our story.

September 13, 2018September 13, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch12 Comments

I wish I had the Perfect Transgender Narrative™ to convince you of my validity. But I don’t.

Mental Health

If your ‘suicide prevention’ isn’t talking about the mental health system, you’re missing the point.

September 12, 2018September 12, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch9 Comments

As both a suicide attempt and loss survivor, I need to climb up onto my soapbox for a minute. Suicide…

Read More If your ‘suicide prevention’ isn’t talking about the mental health system, you’re missing the point.

Mental Health

An open letter to anyone else he’s hurt.

September 6, 2018September 6, 2018 Sam Dylan Finch6 Comments

In truth, his soul was hollowed out long before he found us.

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Sam Dylan Finch. I’m a writer and positive psychology practitioner that’s passionate about queer joy — with none of the self-helpy bullsh*t. I wrote that thing about people-pleasing that you showed your therapist. I’m much weirder in real life.  ✨ He/they. More?

 

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