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Mental Health/self-care

5 Ways I’m Unlearning My ‘Fawn’ Response

February 2, 2020March 19, 2020 Sam Dylan Finch20 Comments

As the kids say, some folks will just have to stay mad.

Mental Health/self-care

7 Subtle Signs Your Trauma Response is to ‘Fawn’

July 6, 2019July 6, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch27 Comments

"I once felt guilty because a friend spent thirty minutes looking for parking near the cafe I chose to meet them at."

Mental Health

People-pleasing can be a result of trauma. It’s called ‘fawning’ — here’s how to recognize it.

June 1, 2019June 1, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch106 Comments

"I avoided those relationships where love was free and easy. Because it didn't feel 'earned,' so I didn't feel worthy."

Mental Health

7 Signs That Online Therapy Might Be Right For You

October 15, 2017January 1, 2019 Sam Dylan Finch9 Comments

Somehow, in just a couple of weeks, I'd disclosed more to my online therapist than I had with my previous therapist that I'd worked with for over a year.

Mental Health

5 Ways to Lovingly Support Someone With C-PTSD

September 14, 2017 Sam Dylan Finch10 Comments

It can be as simple as noticing. As simple as validating us. As simple as saying, “I believe you.”

Mental Health

7 Signs Your Psychiatrist Is a Keeper

August 24, 2017August 24, 2017 Sam Dylan Finch8 Comments

“You defer to me a lot,” he pointed out, laughing. “You’re allowed to have an opinion.”

Crazy Talk/Mental Health

Crazy Talk: Why Do I Keep Making Myself Sad On Purpose?

July 27, 2017August 11, 2017 Sam Dylan Finch9 Comments

Emotional self-harm? It's a thing.

Mental Health

Let’s Talk About Self-Sabotage.

February 12, 2017August 11, 2017 Sam Dylan Finch22 Comments

Being happy makes me a little crazy. And if you've ever thought you were the only one, I assure you – it's actually a really common thing.

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Sam Dylan Finch. I’m a writer and positive psychology practitioner that’s passionate about queer joy — with none of the self-helpy bullsh*t. I wrote that thing about people-pleasing that you showed your therapist. I’m much weirder in real life.  ✨ He/they. More?

 

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