As the kids say, some folks will just have to stay mad.
"I once felt guilty because a friend spent thirty minutes looking for parking near the cafe I chose to meet them at."
"I avoided those relationships where love was free and easy. Because it didn't feel 'earned,' so I didn't feel worthy."
Somehow, in just a couple of weeks, I'd disclosed more to my online therapist than I had with my previous therapist that I'd worked with for over a year.
It can be as simple as noticing. As simple as validating us. As simple as saying, “I believe you.”
“You defer to me a lot,” he pointed out, laughing. “You’re allowed to have an opinion.”
Emotional self-harm? It's a thing.