Not everyone is interested in holding space for non-binary people.
I was at a poetry reading when an older butch woman sat down next to me and started to talk to me about her experiences in the lesbian communities of San Francisco. Typical Bay Area. Queers chatting up queers. And for a little while, it was just an ordinary conversation for two gays in the [...]
The other day, I was called a “transtrender” by a trans woman who refused to acknowledge my gender identity because I have, up until this point, not hormonally transitioned. Because the only thing that determines your gender identity is, you know, hormones (sarcasm). A “transtrender” refers to a person who identifies as transgender because they [...]
Cross-posted via Everyday Feminism --- My partner is pounding on the door, begging me to unlock it. I’m sitting in front of a tall mirror, tears falling quietly down my face, as I clutch my shirt in one hand and a bottle of vodka in the other. The amount of panic my chest has caused [...]
This is a piece I posted over at Everyday Feminism that I wanted to cross-post here. This advice, while geared towards romantic partners, can more generally be applied to anyone who has a gender non-binary person in their life. --- I still remember the moment I came out as genderqueer to my then-partner. I was [...]
[The photo features the author, Sam Dylan Finch, standing near a lake. He is a white, androgynous person with dark-rimmed glasses and a colorful, knitted sweater. He is smiling and looking off toward something in the distance.] IMPORTANT NOTE (2/1/2016): I answered these questions over a year ago now. Time sure does fly! My [...]