So if you didn’t know, I got married last Saturday! Hooray! It was magical, and queer, and everything I had hoped it would be. (And if you somehow missed the momentous announcement, this is a great opportunity to like our Facebook page so you’ll never miss another update like this again. Harhar.) As someone who [...]
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If I’m a Stranger Now, I Will Be a Stranger Forever (Reflections on Testosterone)
I was at a poetry reading when an older butch woman sat down next to me and started to talk to me about her experiences in the lesbian communities of San Francisco. Typical Bay Area. Queers chatting up queers. And for a little while, it was just an ordinary conversation for two gays in the [...]
How Did You Know You Were Non-Binary?
Header illustration by Jessica Krcmarik. I was watching an episode of Bones, oddly enough, when I first realized that I might be transgender. No, I'm not kidding. I wish it were a more exciting story, but I have to be honest. I was just sitting on my couch, watching television, when the light bulb began [...]
5 Ways to Support a Trans Person Experiencing Body Dysphoria
Cross-posted via Everyday Feminism --- My partner is pounding on the door, begging me to unlock it. I’m sitting in front of a tall mirror, tears falling quietly down my face, as I clutch my shirt in one hand and a bottle of vodka in the other. The amount of panic my chest has caused [...]
7 Ways to Lovingly Support Your Gender Non-Binary Partner
This is a piece I posted over at Everyday Feminism that I wanted to cross-post here. This advice, while geared towards romantic partners, can more generally be applied to anyone who has a gender non-binary person in their life. --- I still remember the moment I came out as genderqueer to my then-partner. I was [...]
The Elephant in the Room: Your Questions About My Gender and Transition, Answered
[The photo features the author, Sam Dylan Finch, standing near a lake. He is a white, androgynous person with dark-rimmed glasses and a colorful, knitted sweater. He is smiling and looking off toward something in the distance.] IMPORTANT NOTE (2/1/2016): I answered these questions over a year ago now. Time sure does fly! My [...]
More than Just Ink: How Tattoos Were a Vital Part of My Gender Transition
[The image features an androgynous person with light brown skin, flexing their bicep in a powerful pose. Their body has numerous tattoos, some geometric and others floral. They are wearing a chest binder.] When I was younger, I never anticipated being the kind of person with tattoos. I have the pain tolerance of a goldfish, [...]
I Am Transgender, and I Am “Trans Enough.”
I know, I know, it's Friday! Whoa, Sam, what is this about? Yes, I don't usually blog on Fridays, as you may know. But something came up, and I wanted to address it. After yesterday’s entry discussing my experiences as a transgender university student, I received a number of tweets, emails, and comments that called into [...]
Dear World: Stop Telling Me to “Love My Body” As Is
As a transgender person (or simply put, someone who does not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth), I have made a number of decisions in my life to be more comfortable with my body. One of these decisions was to wear a chest binder, which is a garment that is worn to [...]
