If I’m a Stranger Now, I Will Be a Stranger Forever (Reflections on Testosterone)

I was at a poetry reading when an older butch woman sat down next to me and started to talk to me about her experiences in the lesbian communities of San Francisco. Typical Bay Area. Queers chatting up queers. And for a little while, it was just an ordinary conversation for two gays in the [...]

I Am Queer, I Am Non-Binary, and I Don’t Know What it Means to Feel Safe

From the moment I stepped onto the bus, there was something about me that didn’t sit right with you. You couldn’t put your finger on it, but I knew what it was from the start, from the way that you looked at me. You heard my voice as I greeted the driver. As you eyed [...]

7 Ways to Lovingly Support Your Gender Non-Binary Partner

This is a piece I posted over at Everyday Feminism that I wanted to cross-post here. This advice, while geared towards romantic partners, can more generally be applied to anyone who has a gender non-binary person in their life. --- I still remember the moment I came out as genderqueer to my then-partner. I was [...]